Membership

Join a community dedicated to supporting submissives through education, mentorship, and authentic connection

Who Can Join?

Membership is open to individuals who:

  • Identify as submissive, exploring submission, or questioning their role within power exchange dynamics
  • Are 18 years of age or older (strictly enforced)
  • Agree to uphold the BKSC Code of Conduct
  • Complete the membership application and vetting process

We welcome all genders, sexual orientations, relationship styles (monogamous, polyamorous, single, etc.), and experience levels. BKSC is committed to creating an inclusive space where every submissive can find support and community.

Membership Benefits

What you gain as a BKSC member

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Educational Access

Participate in all meetings, workshops, and educational events. Access our comprehensive curriculum covering consent, safety, protocols, and personal growth.

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Mentorship Opportunities

Request pairing with an experienced mentor who can guide you through your journey in submission with wisdom and compassion.

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Resource Library

Full access to our curated collection of books, articles, videos, and educational materials on BDSM, submission, and power exchange.

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Community Connection

Join our private FetLife group and communication channels. Connect with other submissives in a safe, supportive environment.

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Voting Rights

After completing your probationary period, vote on club decisions and participate in leadership elections.

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Personal Growth

Receive support in setting and achieving personal goals within your submission practice and power exchange dynamics.

Application Process

Five steps to becoming a BKSC member

Step 1: Initial Inquiry

Send a message to BKSC leadership via our contact form or FetLife, briefly introducing yourself and expressing your interest in membership.

Step 2: Application Form

Complete our membership application questionnaire covering your introduction, pronouns, experience level, goals, and agreement to our Code of Conduct.

Step 3: Vetting Interview

Participate in a 30-minute conversation (in-person or virtual) with a BKSC leader to discuss your goals, boundaries, and mutual expectations.

Step 4: Probationary Period

Attend your first three meetings as an observer before full participation privileges (voting, leadership roles) are granted.

Step 5: Confirmation

After successful completion of the probationary period and positive peer feedback, your membership is confirmed and you gain full member privileges.

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Membership Fees

Voluntary Contribution Model

BKSC operates on a voluntary contribution model. There are no mandatory dues, but members are encouraged to contribute to help cover venue costs, materials, and refreshments.

  • Suggested donation: $5–$10 per meeting
  • Scholarship availability: No one is turned away for inability to pay
  • Alternative contributions: Members can also contribute through volunteering, bringing refreshments, or donating materials
Financial accessibility is important to us. If cost is a barrier to your participation, please speak with leadership confidentially. We will work with you to ensure you can fully participate in BKSC regardless of financial circumstances.

Member Rights & Responsibilities

Your Rights as a Member

  • Participate in all meetings, workshops, and events
  • Access the BKSC resource library
  • Request mentorship or peer support
  • Vote on club decisions (after probationary period)
  • Voice concerns and suggestions to leadership
  • Be treated with respect and dignity
  • Have your boundaries honored
  • Expect confidentiality and privacy

Your Responsibilities as a Member

  • Uphold the Code of Conduct at all times
  • Respect confidentiality of other members
  • Contribute positively to discussions and community culture
  • Communicate openly and honestly
  • Report violations of conduct to leadership promptly
  • Attend meetings regularly when possible
  • Support fellow members with compassion
  • Engage in continuous learning and growth

Code of Conduct

The standards we uphold to maintain a safe, respectful community

Important: All members, guests, and leaders are expected to adhere to this Code of Conduct. Violations may result in removal from BKSC.

Consent and Boundaries

  • Consent is mandatory: All interactions—physical, verbal, or emotional—require clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent.
  • Boundaries are sacred: "No" is a complete sentence. Pressuring, coercing, or manipulating someone to change their boundaries is prohibited.
  • Negotiate clearly: Before any scene, play, or intimate interaction, all parties must discuss expectations, limits, safewords, and aftercare.
  • Respect safewords: Safewords must always be honored immediately, without question or judgment.

Respectful Communication

  • Use people's correct names, pronouns, and titles
  • Avoid making assumptions about others' roles, experiences, or identities
  • Listen actively and speak thoughtfully
  • No interrupting, talking over, or dismissing others' contributions
  • Engage in constructive dialogue, even when disagreeing

Prohibited Behaviors

The following behaviors are strictly prohibited and may result in immediate removal:

  • Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse or assault
  • Coercion, manipulation, or predatory behavior
  • Outing or doxxing (sharing someone's private information without consent)
  • Discrimination or harassment based on race, gender, orientation, disability, religion, or any other identity
  • Intoxication or drug use during meetings or events
  • Non-consensual photography, recording, or sharing of member information
  • Violating confidentiality agreements
  • Soliciting members for commercial purposes

Reporting Violations

If you experience or witness a Code of Conduct violation:

  1. Immediate safety concerns: Remove yourself from the situation and notify leadership or designated safety personnel immediately.
  2. Non-urgent concerns: Submit a written report to leadership via our secure contact form or private FetLife message.
  3. Anonymous reporting: An anonymous reporting option is available for those who prefer not to identify themselves.

All reports will be taken seriously and investigated promptly and confidentially. We are committed to maintaining a safe environment for all members.

Conflict Resolution

Informal Resolution

Members are encouraged to resolve minor conflicts through direct, respectful communication. If needed, a neutral third party (e.g., co-facilitator) may mediate.

Formal Grievance Process

For serious violations or unresolved conflicts:

  1. Submit Written Complaint: Send a detailed account to the Safety Officer or leadership team
  2. Investigation: Leadership conducts interviews and gathers evidence
  3. Hearing: All parties have the opportunity to present their perspectives
  4. Decision: Leadership determines appropriate action, which may include:
    • Mediated conversation and reconciliation plan
    • Temporary suspension from meetings
    • Permanent removal from BKSC
  5. Appeal: Decisions may be appealed to Sir Flogger or designated elder advisor within 30 days

Ready to Join?

Take the first step toward becoming part of a supportive community dedicated to your growth and empowerment.

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